Parenting as a Christian Single Dad

In a nutshell I am curious how others deal with the homeless begging on the corner of every shopping center in town. I understand times are tough and many are trying to make it for their families but how do you tell the difference between the professional street beggar and the one that is there out of circumstance. I hate giving money to someone and having to worry they are just going to run out and buy smokes or booze. Boise, Idaho is such that there are many shelters and organizations that feed and provide shelter for the homeless so I struggle with handing money out my window to a stranger. I would much rather donate it to the local food bank or shelter to make the most of it. Plus handing money out the window seems so impulsive and to me that isn’t how we are supposed to be with our finances. I don’t know… Any thoughts because I feel a bit callous about this whole thing.

Being divorced has it advantages and disadvantages, I can't believe I am saying that! Anyhow, today was Madalyn's birthday and she is spending it with mom. I was invited but I felt weird about it and I am scared to give Madalyn the wrong impression that mom and dad may get back together. (yes I tend to over analyze or maybe look for an excuse :-) ) Well apparently I am the proud new owner of half the bill for the party she had. I even got the call before the party was over that I owed the money. I don't recall agreeing to it but I am also non confrontational when it comes to Madalyn because I don't want her to be hurt by my stubbornness. I don't know why my ex feels I need to pay for half of everything. I take care of Madalyn and if she can't live in her means then she should cut back. I would of been happy to pay some money if I was asked up front, not after the fact. Oh well it is not worth fretting over. My little girl is growing up! The big 4!