Parenting as a Christian Single Dad

As I was looking through some pictures I started thinking about God's creation and it beauty and even its perceived perfection. But as I looked closer the perfection became imperfect. Yet it still held on to its beauty. It dawned on me that EVERYTHING in this world is going to be flawed. Something is always attacking it, feeding on it, using it as shelter, sucking the life from it, trying to cut it down, etc... Ultimately it either dies or becomes stronger. Without God we will just whither up and die, we won't have anywhere to turn when it is our turn for the world to take us for a ride. Sure, everything dies someday but if we survive we may have a few scares but we will keep our beauty as we become more and more Christ-like.

It is hard to find support and help sometimes when things seem to be falling apart. I have been plugging along pretty darn well but that changed when I got a call from my ex-wife saying that she is moving to California with her boyfriend and wants to take Madalyn with her. Of course she wants to take this to court as soon as possible. To be quite honest I can’t imagine not being able to see my daughter for months, not being there for her when she is in school, taking off her training wheels, getting my daily hug and kiss, etc… I have been a wreck all day and constantly want to break down and cry, just the thought of not being with Madalyn makes me sick to my stomach. Maybe I am not giving enough credit to the courts but from what I told is that the judge typically takes the side of the mom. As much as I want to blame this on someone else it is still part of the consequences of marrying the wrong person. I know you folks don’t know my situation or who I am but I need PRAYER! I do...

The process of continuous improvement is something that is very common in the workplace. But what about in a person’s personal life and at home. Continuous improvement should be our daily goal as we become more Christ-like. I know I have my ups and downs and there are things that I can do to help with the down times. One of which is to use empowering words. I am starting small and I am going to try and change six words that I have when I am “feeling” a certain way. You might ask what the goal is so I am going to tell you. The goal is to lessen the negative feelings that I am feeling and even turn them into positive funny feelings. When I am feeling… Lonely – I will change that to “temporarily on my own” Angry – I will change to “a little concerned” Stupid – I will change to “in the process of learning” Lustful – I will change to “under-utilized” Depressed – I will change to “its time to take action” Frustrated – I will change to “challenged” When I am faced with the feelings, instead o...

I had to attend a supervisor meeting today and the main thing that we were asked to consider is the value of time. What is important to me, at work and at home? What types of things can complicate life and interfere with those things? It was quite interesting because as a supervisor you have to be very careful what you do. Developing friendships with non supervisors can lead to trouble down the road or asking the wrong questions can have the same affect. The point is we have choices but our choices, even though they seem harmless, can bite us right in the butt. As a supervisor I need to understand how my choices can affect what I value and ultimately how it will affect my time and how I feel during that time. Check out this video...

I did something yesterday that I never thought I would do... I called my ex to come get our little girl early, I even gave up the rest of my weekend. It was the hardest thing for me to do. I feel like a complete scum bag. I have always thought I was the stable one, the one that would always be there for Madalyn but for some reason yesterday I just couldn't handle it. All Madalyn wanted was to be with her mom. She knew her mom was coming to get her for the holiday, so she would sit at the window and watch or constantly check the clock. This is after she just spent 4 days with her mom. I struggle with this all the time . I feel that the time I spend with Madalyn is good and I know she loves me so why do I get upset when she just wants to be with her mom? I know! Because I am selfish and immature. Here is how it was explained to me: 98% of little girls are more attached to their mothers! Period! I have been able to handle the divorce and all that went on but for some reason I can'...