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My ex is what you would call a social butterfly and she has children from previous marriages, there seems to never be a dull moment or a moment when she is not on the go. When Madalyn is with her of course she gets to experience the same. She also gets to see her half sisters and she sure does love them.

Now when Madalyn is with daddy, me, I am more of a homebody. We go for walks, bike rides, to the park, or watch "Clifford the Big Red Dog." Typically it is just her and I. Does she get bored with her daddy? Do I need to have more stimuli for her? I don't know... The reason I am thinking about this is that she seems to always be excited to see her mom. Sometimes I feel sad because it does not seem like she wants to be with me. I don't even know if these two things are related but I thought that maybe she wants her mom more is becuase of the excitement associated with being with her. I am just boring old daddy.

I don't know, maybe I am totally overthinking this. I know she loves me and loves to me be with me and it is not a competition.

4 comments:

Barbie said...

I worry about the same thing. This summer my kids spent 41 days with Dad in Florida and I had never been away from them before...I knew that Dad wasn't responsible with money so he would go and spend a fortune and have lots of fun and Mom can't do that...Mom has to work and pay bills and life happens...plus Dad is a road runner and Mom likes routine so our weeks look like work/school, homework, dinner, baths and bed except for weekends when we spend time with friends...BUT I have found that kids like structure and understand that things are different at each place..I think my oldest respects the fact that we can live on less than Dad and still be able to move forward:-) Just be you and trust God because Madalyn will love you no matter what and as she gets older she will respect your stability much more than you think. Hang in there!!

Jason said...

Thanks Barbie... I do hope that Madalyn will welcome and come to desire the emotional and physical stability I try to bring and maintain for her. I guess I feel like I have been alone for so long and I don't get much feedback on whether I am doing a good job or not I start to question myself. The best I can hope for is someday hearing Madalyn say, "Daddy you did a good job."

I know that if I continue to let God be the center, at least try such as I do, then I will do okay and Madalyn will be okay.

Thanks again Barbie, God Bless You and Your Family!

Barbie said...

I guess I feel like I have been alone for so long and I don't get much feedback on whether I am doing a good job or not I start to question myself.
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Thanks, I will check it out.