Am I Truely Ready?


A passer by was kind enough to provide some detailed information that I found very useful. I realize sometimes that I still have work to do on myself. How can I expect more from a woman than I can provide myself. I get caught up on wanting a mate I get tunnel vision and forget about my relationship with the Lord, except for the "What Jason wants" stuff. I strive to draw closer to God so I CAN be the father, and someday, the husband I want to be. Anyhow here is the comment:

Mmm, it is interesting to see a single, Christian guy's perspective on life. I hope I may add some words of wisdom from a single, divorced 30 something homeschooling mom.
1. Yes there are single women at church, yes that is where you find them. Go to the really good bible believing churches and you will find them. Go to the shallow, God is love churches and you will see them too, they are just more desperate and lonely and easier to spot.

2. Get some really good teaching on what a Proverbs 31 woman is and contextually she is for a man to develop, of course she has to have a few prerequisits.

3. Avoid bitter women at all costs. Divorced women tend to be bitter unless they are relying on the Lord.

4. It sounds like you spend a good amount of time with your daughter, keep up the good work.

5. As to bribery, don't give in, no matter what. Show her you're the adult, it's what she's looking for. If she pushes on the walls and the walls constantly move she will have no security. I know that you want her to feel secure. Rules make us so. Of course, you don't become a legalist either.

6. Character matters. Christian single women our age have had really bad, they want really good. We're looking for character in real life situations, not dates where you're on your best behavior and we are too, hoping neither one of us will see the sinner inside. It all comes out in the wash anyway, why not let us see it up front (us too) and decide then and there if that's the type of mate you want. A young girl single in our church is currently courting. When asked by her mate what drew her to him he said the way she took care of his sister and walked hand in hand with her. He just knew she would be a good mom and loving wife. I know she will too.

7. Devotions are key. If she says (or you too) that she just didn't feel like doing devotions, got too busy, didn't feel God speaking to her to do them, etc., this means she's not serious about God, other things are more important. If you fall after God, imagine how important you will be in her life?

8. Take time to not be fresh from divorce before finding someone. I truly have found the real me these last 7 years. I've learned I'm a lot of fun! Even if it's just me.

Hope this helps.