Please Pray for ME!!

It is hard to find support and help sometimes when things seem to be falling apart. I have been plugging along pretty darn well but that changed when I got a call from my ex-wife saying that she is moving to California with her boyfriend and wants to take Madalyn with her. Of course she wants to take this to court as soon as possible. To be quite honest I can’t imagine not being able to see my daughter for months, not being there for her when she is in school, taking off her training wheels, getting my daily hug and kiss, etc… I have been a wreck all day and constantly want to break down and cry, just the thought of not being with Madalyn makes me sick to my stomach. Maybe I am not giving enough credit to the courts but from what I told is that the judge typically takes the side of the mom. As much as I want to blame this on someone else it is still part of the consequences of marrying the wrong person.

I know you folks don’t know my situation or who I am but I need PRAYER! I don’t want to lose my little girl. She is the best thing that has ever happened to me and the one thing that consistently brings me joy. I pray that God will change my ex-wife’s circumstances so she won’t move or that I would gain full custody of Madalyn.

Comments

Marja said…
Definately. I'll say a little prayer for ya.
July 21, 2009 at 5:55 PM
Anonymous said…
I am so sorry that you are going through this. Have you been able to talk to a lawyer? Does she have any legal history you can use to show she is unstable(arrests, etc)? I can only imagine how hard this must be. My thoughts and prayers are with you. - Amanda
July 21, 2009 at 7:38 PM
Lanel said…
I'll be praying.
July 21, 2009 at 10:27 PM
Susan said…
I will pray for you..because I am a single mom who know how you feel..I gave up everything to fight for my two kids...Keep thinking positive thoughts...
July 22, 2009 at 10:24 AM
Jason said…
Thank you everyone! I have not slept in a couple days but I took off early from work today to try and do so.

I talked to an lawyer today and she said that is would be much harder to take Madalyn out of the state than what I thought.

Personally, I think I am a pretty good dad. It is VERY unlikely my exwife will be able to show that I am below par or even a bad parent.

The lawyer said the courts don't like to split up the family. I feel a little better and relaxed but I can't wait for this whole thing to be over. Just the slightest chance of losing Madalyn makes me sick to my stomach.

I have got to have faith in God and give her over to Him.

Today is looking up and so am I.
July 22, 2009 at 1:25 PM
Johnathan said…
Jason, I have already been through a bit of this.

Times have changed. The courts USED to be biased to women, but times have indeed changed. The primary focus for children today, by the courts, is STABILITY and moving away from parents, relatives, schools, friends, are all taken into account. Your EX has the burden to take Madalyn, not you to keep her.
July 22, 2009 at 9:11 PM
Jason said…
Johnathan, I sure hope so... Just the slightest thought of losing the kid freaks me out.

I am a good dad and I have been there for both her and her mom.

I talked to a lawyer and feel much better too.

Thanks
July 24, 2009 at 2:18 PM
neverforsaked said…
Jason,
I don't know how I missed this post! You're in my prayers!
Beth
August 2, 2009 at 11:49 PM
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